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Creating a Personal Psychological Safe Space
Having a personal psychological safe place that tenderly embraces and supports you, and reciprocating that love/ includes self-care, self-compassion, and intentional practices. Here psychological safe space:
1) Prioritize self-care: In the fast-paced world of today, an individual is always expected to
meet deadlines and fulfil their responsibilities. A world where hustle culture rules, self-care
should not be neglected. The constant emotional and mental stress an individual is subjected to, can be reduced by nurturing and nourishing the mind, body and soul. Engulfing in activities that provide genuine happiness, following a healthy diet, pursuing one’s passion, exercising and practising mindfulness can all aid in building the very foundation of self-care and self-love in one’s life.
2) Set and honour boundaries: Maintaing clear boundaries is essential for emotional well-being. Specify what you’re comfortable with in relationships and personal space, and communicate these limits confidently. Respecting your own boundaries enables you and encourages nurturing a personal environment.
3) Practise self-compassion: Oftentimes, the affection and care we show towards others, is
required by our own body and soul. Individuals should always strive to be kind, patient and understanding with themselves irrespective of their imperfections. An atmosphere of self-love and compassion towards self is created only when an individual acknowledges their emotions and practises self-forgiveness.
4) Engage in positive self-talk: Failure in giving respect to our own self can lead to gaining
no respect from others as well. Positive and affirmative self-talk cultivates a sense of self
love within an individual. On the other hand, self-criticism and self-doubt fosters a negative perception of self, inflicting a negative impact on the emotional and mental wellbeing of a person. Thus, an individual should always strive to engage himself in positive self-talk which ultimately aids in building a loving and caring connection with oneself.
5) Surround yourself with positivity: Negativity has a greater effect on an individual’s mental
and emotional wellbeing than positivity ever can. One should always strive to create an
atmosphere bubbling with positivity with the presence of people who genuinely care and a
safe space that is positive and peaceful in nature. Social connections that are supportive and
nurturing in nature serve the mental wellbeing of an individual well, rather than toxic
connections that inflict harm on their emotional health. Thus, one should always look forward to pursuing healthy relations that act as a saviour for one’s overall well-being.
6) Embrace self-discovery and growth: The process of self-discovery and personal
development should be seen as an ongoing process in the life of an individual. People
should ensure to constantly discover themselves as the more they find about the mysteries
of their being, the less it is. Individuals should strive to persistently explore their passions,
interests and values which can allow them to build a deeper and genuine connection with
themselves, thus inculcating a sense of personal development and growth.
7) Celebrate achievements and strengths: An individual should aim towards celebrating his both big and small achievements. Fostering a sense of appreciation towards their strengths, talents, and unique qualities and celebrating accomplishments aids in reinforcing a sense of self love within their personal safe space.
Your private psychological safe space ought to be the space of love, affection and care.
There might be times when your personal psychological safe space might feel comforting or
supportive. Here are some situations where your personal psychological safe space might
not exhibit love:
1) Self-criticism and self-judgement: Self-criticism, negative self-talk and underestimating self
give rise to the lack of self-love and self-compassion. An inner voice which is harsh and self
criticising obstructs individuals to wholly accept themselves and makes them feel insecure
and unsafe in their very own personal safe space.
2) Perfectionism and unrealistic expectations: Tendency of an individual to set high and unrealistic expectations from themselves often results in exhaustion and burn out. When an individual constantly strives for perfectionism and fails to meet its end, his safe space becomes a source of pressure rather than that of comfort. Thus, perfectionism can often result in the feelings of inadequacy, self-criticism and lack of self-compassion, thus inflicting harm on one’s emotional and mental well-being.
3) Self-neglect or self-sabotage: Neglecting your own needs, suppressing your emotions or involving oneself in self-destructive behaviours can create an environment within personal safe space devoid of self-love and compassion. Ignoring one’s need of self-care or constantly undermining one’s self-worth has a worse effect on emotional and mental well-being. It is difficult for love to grow in a space filled with negativity, hate and self-criticism.
4) Negative external influences: A personal safe space influenced by toxic people, selfish
connections or negative external factors cease to be a safe space. Being surrounded by
individuals who are unsupportive and relations deprived of genuine love and care often
results in the creation of a negative environment.
5) Lack of self-acceptance: One’s struggle with accepting themselves fully, including their
flaws and imperfections, results in the creation of a very negative safe space devoid of
security and love. If an individual is facing constant difficulty in accepting himself as a whole,
he would eventually invite the feelings of self-judgement, self-criticism and underestimation
of self at every stage of his life.
6) Unhealthy boundaries: A personal safe space devoid of respect from others or which fails in respecting the boundaries of others, leads towards the creation of a space that lacks both love and respect. Maintaining healthy boundaries is significant for the creation of a safe and loving environment.
An individual should get professional help if his psychological safe space does not feel like
one. Observing daily patterns in behaviours, acknowledging thoughts and sharing with loved
ones may help find the causes of the issue. Constantly reflecting upon one’s thoughts and
actions, exhibiting the practice of self-love and self-care and being kind on oneself aids in
rebuilding the personal psychological safe space that existed earlier.
